In this series, I’ll be suggesting ways you can make things simpler for yourself in various life areas.
Today let’s turn to your to-do list and time management.
Simplify Your To-Do List: What Not To Do
One of the smartest things you can do to simplify your life is to make decisions in advance. If you already know what you choose not to do, you can save yourself considerable time and mental energy every time a question comes up.
By having a What Not To Do list, you pre-make entire categories of decisions. Putting a line through choices that don’t work for you, or that feel like less than the best use of your time, can be wonderfully liberating.
Now of course, you need to be careful that you don’t let yourself get closed minded or boring. As with everything, it’s a matter of balance, of finding choices that make life simpler, not narrower.
My What Not To Do list contains a range of things I just don’t do anymore. They waste time or energy, or they create mental clutter, or they get in the way of more important things. In every case, the cost of losing them is smaller than the gain. My life is simpler and runs more smoothly in large part because of the things I don’t do.
See if anything on my list suggests ideas for your own What Not To Do list.
My ‘What Not To Do’ List
Here are some things I simply don’t do – so that I have time, energy and mental clarity for things that genuinely matter to me:
- Ironing – I only buy clothes that dry ready-to-wear
- Shopping outside my local zone – if I can’t get it locally, I don’t bother with added travel time to go elsewhere
- Watching TV – I watch DVDs or recorded programs to limit myself to what I really enjoy, and to avoid ads
- Chatting on the phone – I chat in person and make arrangements by text/email
- Scheduling social engagements during my work day – it’s too hard to get back into work mode
- Answering the security buzzer during my work day – if it’s a friend they can call me; most likely it’s a salesperson who’ll break my concentration and waste time
- Going to the gym at peak times – it takes less time and energy to get to the gym when there are fewer people around
- Decanting anything – I used to decant cookies, cereal, etc into nice containers but found it a colossal waste of time
- Cooking – I have neither the skill nor interest, so that makes it easy
- Using tablecloths – too much washing, folding, etc
- Having plants – I’ve killed too many not to know better by now
- Have a guest bedroom – the space is much more effectively used as a second office
- Eating leftovers after 48 hours – a rule-of-thumb that makes it easy to decide when to discard
- Sending Christmas cards – I have a Christmas e-card made each year, and send that instead
- Reading/watching the news – I see headlines when I cut the crossword out of the paper, and I catch major events on social media
- Going to the movies – too much crunching and talking; I happily wait for the DVD.
Your ‘What Not To Do’ List
Now over to you. What belongs on your personal ‘What Not To Do’ list?
Think about things that:
- You do out of habit
- You do because you think you should
- You hate doing
- Feel like a waste of time
- Contribute little or nothing to your goals
- Bore you
- Annoy you
- Get in the way of what you really want to be doing
- Consistently disappoint you
- Take a lot of time for little reward
- Could be done differently, or at a different time, or in a different way.
It might feel a little strange to create this list, but give it a try. You’ll feel the weight lift off your shoulders and the clouds clear as you pre-decide on no-go zones for your life.
That is – your new, simpler life.
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I like the ideas; some we all do as a matter of course. I always wait for a movie to come out on cable unless it’s one of those “must” see, which are very few. Much cheaper and easier on the brain. Cable v. theater costs typically evens out and who doesn’t love popcorn and bathroom breaks on your schedule without missing any action. Also, many sites offer a product comparable feature that allows you to line up a product in variations and helps you to see what fits your needs. Just yesterday I was looking for an item and found out the middle priced version fit my needs just right and the high end was just more expensive having features I would not use. I have an eBook tablet which reduces the clutter of books tremendously (I used to have scads until my last move; got a Nook tablet which was much easier to transport and causes many less belly creases from reading in bed), spending much less money as the cost of paperbacks continues to rise. Getting magazines on the tablet makes them much more portable; very handy when caught up in an unexpected wait. And I get the latest version of a sought after book in a series when it first comes out if I want to fit the price into my budget. Many grocery stores have savings cards where you can load coupons from their website, so I don’t have to scrutinize ads in the Sunday paper or worry about where that paper coupon has gone. Cuts down time in the grocery store, eliminates impulse buying which always overshoots my food budget. Especially handy for in-store access to recipes getting that elusive item that I never seem to remember or add to my list. My sister and I also share finds that might interest the other, especially two-fers, so we both benefit. I am sure there are many, many more out there. I find the adventure exciting and most satisfying (so does my pocketbook)!
ahh… this is a good excercise! I need to wrestle with this one. I know for one I feel constantly challenged to work on lowering my grocery budget based on other mom blogs but yet I feel like every time I get caught up in playing the sale game I get stressed out if a deal doesn’t work out the way I thought it should. I think well I can “afford” how much I’m spending so why stress myself out trying to get it lower or eating meals I don’t really like because it’s cheaper? It is hard to find the ballance. Honestly financial goals just do not motivate me much (that said we have “healthy” spending habits in that we are not in debt) I wonder if I need to try and worry about that because everyone says you “should” or if I should just keep living my life the way I do because so far it has worked out for me? Then I read about being “green” and so a bought a composter (even though we have no yard) and frankly, it is a pain. Or I get motivated to eat healthier so I found raw milk but it’s two towns away…not sustainable for my weekly grocery run. So many “shoulds” in my head…hard to break free and know where to set the limit for your own quality of life.
Thank you for this comment, Jessica. I so relate to the conflict between shoulds and simplicity and I’m sure many others do too – especially those of us scoring high on the personality trait psychologists call conscientiousness. Some people will disagree with me (perhaps they are less easily stressed than I am), but here’s my take:
PLANT THE FLOWERS THAT SUIT YOUR SOIL. By which I mean, focus on the money and environment savings that feel good and come easily to you. I love getting a dress on sale but I won’t go to crowded sales to find a bargain. I have a tiny carbon footprint but I take long showers in winter. The misery isn’t worth it, and I figure I’m saving myself therapy bills. 🙂
I suspect there are many ways you can be economical and eco-smart that feel good to you – do these. And let the others go. Life is short. Relationships and family are hard. The more unnecessary stress you put on yourself, the more your health, happiness and therefore relationships suffer.
That’s my two cents worth. 🙂
Most of the things on your don’t-do list are things I already don’t do! :-)….By the way, what do you eat if you don’t cook? Does somebody else cook for you?
I wish Barbara! I live on a combination of eating out and take-out. I choose healthy options about 80% of the time. 🙂
I wish Barbara! I live on a combination of eating out and take-out. I choose healthy options about 80% of the time. 🙂
Michele – 80% is pretty good, I think! ….I love your site. :-):-)
Thanks so much Barbara! ♡♡♡
@Andwhatbetterway: Wow – what a strange comment. You seem to be suggesting that the ‘suffering or splendor of the world’ is only able to be experienced through the news. Really?
Obviously, someone like you has no use for the news anyway. The suffering or splendor of the world outside your tiny fiscal sphere is worthless, right? All you need is shallow media soundbites about Brangelina and you’re set!
I like your list, Queen of string, especially #3.
Letting your kids organize themselves is good for you AND good for them. It’s much harder to learn personal organization when you’re older.
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thanks for this useful post, I came here via frugal hacks. I think I am pretty organised!
I dont own a large wardrobe, a few key pieces saves time.
I dont check prices every time I shop, once a month is enough to stay in touch with changes.
I dont check my teens have all they need for school, they’re big enough to learn for themselves by now.
I’m sure there are lots more 🙂
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